There are two types of parents in the world: those who are ‘unaware’ of their children’s actions. And others, who are ‘troubled’ by the actions of their children. I am referring to those ‘children’ who have become adults as per physical appearance and law. But in the eyes of parents, they are still ‘children’. And probably always will be. Everyone knows that nowadays boys and girls create profiles on dating apps and meet each other, but parents belonging to the ‘unknown’ category think – they must be doing it, my Pappu is not like that. When he asks his beloved, he gets an immediate answer, otherwise. I don’t get involved in these squabbles. Pappu knows that his mother will not be able to hear the truth. Actually, he goes on a date with a new girl every month, but if the house finds out, there will be squabbles every day. Whenever he leaves the house, his mother will look at him with suspicion. When he returns home, he will be interrogated. So it is better to lie. Yes, precautions have to be taken even while telling lies. Nowadays mother has also taken to social media. Hence, there is a ‘Satvik’ account – for the eyes of Chachi-Bua-Didi type of people. Look, what a good child I am. And the second account is private, only for your special ones. His true form is visible in this account – ‘Yes, I like all this but there is dirt in your eyes. So should I ruin my life because of your old thoughts? And if it is Pammi and not Pappu, then even more trouble. Parents may tolerate the frivolity of boys, but what about girls? Therefore the question of telling or listening the truth does not arise there. Saying hello uncle and hello aunty, she went to the café to meet someone. Well, it is not that the parents did not indulge in love at all in their youth. Perhaps he also liked someone in college, but could not express it. Or the discussion went on for a few days but could not reach any conclusion. But even if there was romance, it was with one or two. Getting someone’s love was very rare before. what now? Go on a dating app, paste a photo and get choices from all over the world. Only fingers have to be used. You can write anything in your profile, so let’s write it. When we met, we came to know that Sweety was only 5 feet tall and not 5 feet 6 inches tall. And Sunny’s photo was fine, but he does not take bath. Oops. No problem, will try again tomorrow! Even if by chance two people ‘click’, after a few days one of them doubts whether this is right for me? Because after getting to know each other a little, their flaws become visible. So let’s start the finger game once again – right swipe, left swipe – ‘Hi, how are you?’ I am such a mother, from whom I do not hide anything about my adult daughter. From the beginning I had told him – Whatever happens, don’t be afraid, just tell me. So I have a lot of knowledge about the dating life of my daughter and her friend group. More information than necessary! And that’s why I say that parents who know the truth are ‘upset’. The problem is that why are boys and girls so afraid today, why are they hesitant in giving commitment to each other? You are not going to get any Aishwarya, and even if you get it, the story will be the same. Every person has some shortcomings, just understand between boys and girls. Nowadays, everyone dates before marriage. And those who say- ‘No’ are just afraid of you. Truth may seem bitter but it is cheaper than lies. Because a child crazy in love can do anything. If you are shocked by his behavior, then so be it. At least no innocent person got hurt! I am such a mother, from whom I do not hide anything about my adult daughter. From the beginning I had told him – Whatever happens, don’t be afraid, just tell me. So I have a lot of knowledge about the dating life of my daughter and her friend group. More information than necessary! (These are the author’s own views)
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Rashmi Bansal’s Column: Why are today’s youth afraid of giving commitment to each other?
