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The New York Times. washington4 hours ago
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According to a study conducted in America, it is easier to raise five children than one child, because good values and character develop easily in them.
People’s attitudes around the world regarding parenting are changing rapidly. The couple now want only one child. They feel that if they have a child then they will be able to give him every happiness, good education and luxuries. But have you ever thought that by doing this you are pushing children towards such solitude, where they do not have a brother or sister to share their heart’s feelings…?
From America to Europe, the number of families with only children has doubled. The fertility rate has fallen to record levels. But in the midst of this ‘quality parenting’, the most beautiful thing has disappeared from the homes… the lovely bickering between brothers and sisters, pillow fights and each other’s companionship. Experts call it the disappearance of the ‘sibling school’.
In a study conducted in America, mothers with five or more children said that raising five children is easier than raising one child, because good values and character develop in them easily.
This study was led by renowned American economist Dr. Katherine Pakaluk. She says, ‘The reason for this is interesting – if there is more than one child in the house, then they naturally learn sharing and caring. It becomes their habit to share toys, fight for the remote and then agree on their own. Elder brothers and sisters learn to take care of younger children through play, such as changing diapers, putting them to sleep, and handling them. This environment makes them responsible, patient and caring people since childhood.
Children’s mutual love therapy is effective
Stress, anxiety and depression are increasing among single children. They blame smartphones and social media for this, but the real reason is the ‘silence of their rooms’. A Los Angeles woman says that her son was struggling with stress and the medicines were not working. After the birth of his younger sister, his anxiety went away just by holding her in his lap. Experts say, ‘The unconditional love of a small child is sometimes more helpful and effective than therapy.’
Children mold each other better: Expert
Dr. Catherine says, ‘Nowadays, parents spend lakhs on summer camps, sports clubs and activities to socialize their children, whereas the rich family used to teach all these things to the children for free at home. The first 2-3 years of childhood are certainly difficult, but the brother-sister relationship that provides support throughout life is priceless.
No matter how much resources parents gather, they cannot compensate for the lack of siblings. In large families, children get values and practical lessons easily, just as trees and plants in a garden grow in each other’s shade. Don’t be afraid of the difficult early years, because children shape each other best.
